Look in the rear view mirror

It’s that time again where we typically want to change, or at least feel as though we should set ourselves something different for the next year. Everyone is doing it, people post about, we joke about it, most don’t take it seriously and it all slowly quietens down by mid February…

HOWEVER, if you are serious about changing something in 2017 then how about looking in the rear view mirror first and doing a stock take on 2016 before you try to move forward. With all that noise of what’s next and everybody shouting their New Years resolutions it’s important to take a look back before you move forward. We should be getting to the end of each year and thinking about all that you did get done! Admittedly, some years are better than others, and then making a conscious effort to recognise that change is good especially if it is productive. Change isn’t easy and can often be scary, but making change for changes sake is not a great idea either so make sure you determine what was a success and what failed. Acknowledge and understand what you learnt, what did you get right, who was beside you. Sometimes these are big and easy to see, but sometimes its the littlest thing can change the direction you go, make you feel differently, or elicit a change in habit. Write them down, it may be hard, it may be bittersweet, it may be boring! Whatever you do, acknowledge what and where you have come from, and take the time to be grateful for what you have achieved. Probably one of the hardest things to do is admit that you have failed at something. Nobody likes failure but it has been proven time and time again that this is how we learn the best, odd for sure, but not sad or depressing because when you know you have failed then you can work out why and change it next time.

At the end of the day you are in charge of your life and how you run it so give yourself permission to adapt, grow and be happy. Sure it may be hard, but having a greater understanding of what you have or haven’t achieved will give you much better insight into what goals to set next time. So take a look back this year and then be smart about making achievable goals for next year so that by the time February ends you hopefully wont have already failed to achieve the list of things you said you would do on New Years Eve…

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